Counselling is increasingly recognised as a very effective way of dealing with personal problems. It can bring enormous relief to speak, sometimes for the first time, of deeply private and personal matters in the safety of a confidential and non-judgmental environment, often impossible to find elsewhere. The level of trust and empathy between client and counsellor is probably more relevant than the type of therapy or any particular theory. It is therefore important to find a counsellor who you feel comfortable with.
The psychodynamic approach is based on the idea that often, unconsciously, we recreate patterns from the past in our current relationships both with other people and towards ourselves. Such thoughts, feelings and behaviour are deep rooted and can be, at times, unhelpful and destructive. Counseling enables you to explore and try to understand these emotional conflicts. Gaining fresh insight can open up the possibility of better understanding your strengths and enable you to build on them and to make the changes that you want.
At first it may be difficult to think about some of these feelings but it gradually becomes easier. The aim is not to give you advice but to increase your understanding and help you explore options you may not have considered and to find different ways of coping with painful situations or feelings.
Psychodynamic Counselling can be helpful on a short-term basis (usually 6 or 12 weekly sessions), but it is generally most effective over a longer period, on an open-ended basis. The continuity of regular meetings in which trust and confidence are built up is instrumental in bringing about deep-seated change.